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学会接受 cerate with the evitable（第1页）

戴尔·卡耐基

DaleCarnegie

ThelateBoothTarkingtonalwayssaid:

"Icouldtakeanythingthatlifecouldforceuonmeexcetonething:blindness。Icouldneverendurethat。

"

Thenoneday，whenhewasalonginhissixties，Tarkingtonglanceddownatthecaretonthefloor。Thecolorswereblurred。Hecouldntseetheattern。Hewenttoasecialist。Helearnedthetragictruth:hewaslosinghissight。Oneeyewasnearlyblind;theotherwouldfollow。Thatwhichhefearedmosthadcomeuonhim。

AndhowdidTarkingtonreacttothis

"worstofalldisasters?

"Didhefeel:

"Thisisit!Thisistheendofmylife?

"No，tohisamazement，hefeltquitegay。Heevencalleduonhishumor。Floating

"secks

"annoyedhim;theywouldswimacrosshiseyesandcutoffhisvision。Yetwhenthelargestoftheseseckswouldswimacrosshissight，hewouldsay:

"Hello!TheresGrandfatheragain!Wonderwherehesgoingonthisfinemorning!

"

Howcouldfateeverconquerasiritlikethat?Theanswerisitcouldnt。Whentotalblindnessclosedin，Tarkingtonsaid:

"IfoundIcouldtakethelossofmyeyesight，justasamancantakeanythingelse。IfIlostallfiveofmysenses，IknowIcouldliveoninsidemymind。Foritisinthemindwesee，andinthemindwelive，whetherweknowitornot。

"

Inthehoeofrestoringhiseyesight，Tarkingtonhadtogothroughmorethantwelveoerationswithinoneyear。Withlocalanaesthetic!Didherailagainstthis?Heknewithadtobedone。Heknewhecouldntescaeit，sotheonlywaytolessenhissufferingwastotakeitwithgrace。Herefusedarivateroomatthehositalandwentintoaward，wherehecouldbewithothereolewhohadtroubles，too。Hetriedtocheerthemu。Andwhenhehadtosubmittoreeatedoerations—fullyconsciousofwhatwasbeingdonetohiseyes—hetriedtorememberhowfortunatehewas。

"Howwonderful!

"hesaid。

"Howwonderful，thatsciencenowhastheskilltooerateonanythingsodelicateasthehumaneye!

"

Theaveragemanwouldhavebeenanervouswreckifhehadhadtoenduremorethantwelveoerationsandblindness。YetTarkingtonsaid，

"Iwouldnotexchangethisexerienceforahaierone。

"Ittaughthimaccetance。Ittaughthimthatnothinglifecouldbringhimwasbeyondhisstrengthtoendure。Ittaughthim，asJohnMiltondiscovered，that

"Itisnotmiserabletobeblind，itisonlymiserablenottobeabletoendureblindness。

"

Ifwerailandkickagainstitandgrowbitter，wewontchangetheinevitable;butwewillchangeourselves。

IoncerefusedtoaccetaninevitablesituationwithwhichIwasconfronted。Ilayedthefoolandrailedagainstit，andrebelled。Iturnedmynightsintohellsofinsomnia。IbroughtuonmyselfeverythingIdidntwant。Finally，afterayearofself-torture，IhadtoaccetwhatIknewfromtheoutsetIcouldntossiblyalter。

IshouldhavecriedoutyearsagowitholdWaltWhitman。