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menshouldmarrywhentheyareyoung，andwomenshouldmarrywhentheyareyoung。thishasbeenanunchangingprinciplesinceancienttimes。Althoughitisnowadvocatedtochangecustomsandengageinnewweddings，paredtothe1960sand1970s，ithasbeemoreluxuriousandthesimplecustomsofpeoplenolongerexist。IamfromZhuzhou，hunan。LetmetalkabouttheweddingcustomsinZhuzhou。

isitingandEngaging

matchmakerestoproposemarriage

whenmenandwomenreachtheageofmarriage，theirparentsfirstfindamatchmaker。whenthematchmakerdiscoversthatthereissomeoneofappropriateageinthefamily，theyfirstmunicatewiththeirparentsandthenscheduleadatetoarrangeablinddatelocation，usuallyamarketplace。onthedayofthemarket，boththemanandthewomangotothedesignatedlocation，takealookateachother，sayafewwords，andshowtheircheerfulpersonalityonthespot。Generally，theywillreturnhomeandtalktothematchmaker。Afteragreeing，themanwillchooseadateforengagement（wecallitdingshithere）。thereisalsoatypethatisfavoredbyoneselforbyparents，suchascousins。Iftheyarerelated，parentswillentrustanacquaintancetoactasamatchmaker。Inthe1960sand1970s，manycousinsgotmarriedinruralareas，andthethirdrepresentativeofsiblingsgettingmarriedwasmore。thisiscalled"newrelativesgettingmarriedwitholdrelatives"，whichisevenmorejoyful，butthiskindofcloserelativesgettingmarriedisstillnotgood。

theengagementrequiresfourkindsofgifts，thatis，afewpiecesofcloth。decentfamilieswillusedacronanddacronfabrics，nylonsocks，andthosewithpooreconomicconditionswillusekhakiclothandcottonsocks。Inthisway，eveniftheengagementissuccessful，themancangotothewomanshomeandsendsomegiftstothewomanshomefortheNewYearholiday。Generally，thefourkindsofgiftsarethesame，namely，thebeginningofSummerFestival，thedragonboatFestival，themid-AutumnFestivalandtheSpringFestival。meat，eggs，noodlesAndapieceoffabric，afterayearortwo，whenbothpartieshavenoobjections，thewomantellsthematchmakerthattheycancuttheshoesample（thatis，themantellsthewomanthesizeoftheshoeswornbyhisfamily）。themangivesthewomansomemoneyforcuttingthesample，whichwasonlyafewtensofyuanatthattime。thewomanneedstomakeapairofshoesforeachmemberofthemansfamilyandmatchthemwithhand-embroideredinsoles。

preparationbeforeandaftermarriage

Anecessarydowryforwomen

beforemarriage，themangivesthewomansomemoneytobuyadowry。dependingonthefamilyseconomicconditions，hecangivethewomanthreetofivethousandyuanatonce，andregardlessofhowmuchmoneyshereceivesfromtheman，thesethingsmustbeallocated。onelargewardrobeorbinationcabinet，onetable，fourchairs，onebtable，onefoodcabinet，onewashbasinrack，twolargewoodencases，onesmallwoodencaseorleathercase（similartothelargertravelcaseatpresent），twohotwaterbottles，cupsandtoothbrushes，aluminumpotsforboilingwater，pressurecookerandotherdailynecessities，fourquiltsandapairofpillows。thosewithgoodfamilyconditionswillbeequippedwithamensbicycle，asewingmachine，ablackandwhitetVset，anelectricfan，etc。Infact，nomatterhowmuchmoneythemangivesthewoman，thewomansparentsbasicallydontusemuchofthemoney，andtheyreturnittotheirdaughtertomakecontainermoney。

whatthemanmustprepare

Inadditiontogivingthewomanthreeorfivethousandyuan，themanonlyneedstoprepareoneortwonewhousesanddoesntcareaboutanythingelse。Ifthemansfamilyispoorandthereisnodowryforthewoman，thewomanwillalsobringallthedailynecessities。

onthedaybeforemarriage，themanmustpayagifttothewoman。thegiftsinclude:halforonepig，chicken，clothesorfabrics，shoesandsocksofthewomansparents，brothersandsisters。Allthingsshouldbeputinplace。Abigrackshouldbeusedtocarrythemtothewoman，sothatthewomansonlookerscanknowwhatsingataglance。Ifthemansfamilyconditionisnotgood，hewillborrowsomethingtoputonittosaveface，becauseallthethingsthatwentthroughtheceremony，exceptforthefood，returnedtothemanthenextday。

thewomanshouldprepareasfollows

putredpacketsinthequilt，usuallytwopackets，eachofwhichis40centsforthebedmaker。thebigwoodenboxisfulloffruit，peanuts，sweetpotatochips，eggs，candybiscuits，andclothes，shoesandsockswhenyouseethemansparents，brothersandsistersinthemansside。Inaddition，theparentsalsoneedtogivethedaughtersomeboxmoney（hundredstothousandsdependingontheconditions）。becauseaftermarryingtheman，themother-in-lawwillopentheboxthenextday，andpeopleinthevillagewillearoundtoseetheexcitement，thepurposeistoseeifthewomanhasgivenenoughmoneyforthecontainer。

onthedaybeforemarriage，thewomanwillnotifythemanhowmanypeoplewilletoliftthingsthenextday。Generally，eightormoremenarerequiredbecausethewomanneedstocarryeverythingtotheman，andthemansroomonlyneedstobepreparedwithanemptyhouse。thenextmorning，aweddingprocessionwasarrangedforthemantogotothewomanshousetoweleher。themenhadtogo，includingthegroom，twobrides（women），fivetosixgongsandcobaltteams，andpeoplecarryingthings。theyallwenttothewomanshousetohavebreakfasttogether，blowingandplaying。Afterdinner，thewomansentoffthewedding，withonemanandtwowomenseeingoffthebride。theprocessioncarryingthingstookastepfirst，andthenthegroomandbridefollowedwithumbrellas。Regardlessoftheweather，eachpersonhadanumbrella，blowingandbeatingallthewaytothemanforlunch。

Afterdinner，theweddingsceneisalsothemostlivelysceneduringmarriage。thepurposeistohelpthegroomandbrideeliminatethefeelingofshyness。Variousprogramstrytomaketheirbodyandskincontact，suchasmouthtomoutheatingdates，twopeoplelightingfirecrackers，kittensfishing，andashpicking。themoretricks，thebetter。Nomatterhowbigorsmall，theycanmakeasmuchnoiseastheywant。Afterthe1980s，thehabitofmakingweddingscenesgraduallychangedtowatchingmovies，videos，andsinging。

conclusion:marriageinthaterawasthesimplest，especiallyforofficeworkersandworkerswhoatethenationalfood，letaloneworryaboutanything。theyhadfreelove，andwhentheygotmarried，theirunithadashareofthehouse。theunitleaderswouldpersonallyholdtheweddingfortheyoungcouple，andaftermarriage，theyoungcoupleslowlymadesomefurniture。Unlikenow，housesmustbeboughtbythemselves，andsomepeoplewouldbeepropertyslavesforalifetime。thaterawastrulysocialist!

Later，withthedevelopmentofsocietyandtheimprovementofmateriallivingstandards，betrothalgiftsemerged，startingwiththreemajoritems:bicycles，watches，andsewingmachines。Later，itdevelopedintofourmajoritems，fivemajoritems，andsoon，untilnow，Iwontsaymuchaboutit。